A Scripture Verse



Jesus said, "Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted", Matthew 5:5, King James Version (Cambridge Edition)











About Our Ministry

Naomi’s Ministry is Christian blog designed to provide encouragement, strength and prayer to individuals who are experiencing loss, grief and recovering from traumatic experiences.

This blog site is to encourage, pray and support persons experiencing a wide range of losses that anyone of us may experience in our lifetime. The parting of a special loved one by death; divorce; the loss of job and financial security; the loss of limb(s) or debilitating illness or disease; the loss of a home or opportunity, are all "losses" and at varying degrees, may catapult you into a grieving cycle or traumatic event. However, we may not be on the road to recovery, if the right resources are not available to give us perspective on our feelings and the changes that happens in one’s life when a loss of any kind occurs. We need courage to grieve and to wait before God for the healing that comes, sometimes, one day at a time.

This is "first" a ministry of encouragement:

Know that what you are going through is normal for anyone who has experienced what you have experienced. Knowing how to go through the process, recognizing when you are grieving and seeking the help you may need will aid in the recovery process.


Know that it is okay that you are hurting. No explanations are needed. Admitting that is a first step toward your recovery. Recovery does not mean that you will forget the one or object of your loss. This also does not mean you will not forget the trauma of your victimization. Emotional healing will allow you to live authentically, freely, victoriously in spite of the event.

Know that you are not alone. Jesus Christ promised never to leave us or forsake us (The book of Hebrews, chapter 13, verse 5). This promise found in the Holy Scriptures is a promise from the Lord Himself that He is always with us, even during our darkest nights. Jesus also said, “I will not leave you comfortless” (The book of the Gospel of John, chapter 14, verse 18).

 Know that “The Comforter will come” (The book of the Gospel of John, chapter 16, verse 7). The Comforter that Jesus Christ is referencing is God the Holy Spirit, (part of the triune Godhead). As you call out to God in faith during this time of tremendous emotional and sometimes physical pain, the Lord will send His Spirit to minister to your mind, body, soul and spirit. He alone can heal the hurts of loss, grief and trauma. The Holy Spirit will wipe away "your tears". Jesus "is willing" to heal you if you but ask and trust Him in the process of recovery.

 Know one day you will be able to smile again. The sun will shine again and you will laugh again. You will have more good days to come. The Lord knows the thoughts and plans he has for you (Jeremiah 29:11), even if you cannot see it in the midst of this defining moment. If you will trust the Lord’s plans for you, you will come through this season, whole and able to continue on in your life’s journey.

Search out a church home or fellowship, grief recovery counselor/support group. Depending on our needs, we may need some assistance beyond what a blog, book or cards offer. Professional help is available. Pray and ask the Lord to direct you to a place of healing and confidentiality. Check out the resources at your church or another Christ-centered congregation. There are also Christian counseling services and grief recovery ministries and support groups that are of great help. Please do not grieve alone.

The time for recovery is NOW. Just like you would go to the hospital’s emergency room if you were physically in need of medical treatment, so during high levels of emotional crisis, you should not wait to seek help or assistance. DON’T WAIT TO GET HELP. This is the time to admit that you are hurting and it is okay.

Keep talking to God the Father, the Father of ALL Comfort. He knows your grief and the journey ahead. Also believe that He loves you even when you are sad. This ministry is reaching out to you with Jesus' love. We are praying for your total healing and recovery.

If you are interested in receiving bible-based books on grief recovery or one of the quarterly bible studies, please write me at:
jesusislord14@outlook.com. Please do not request money - request prayer or a book.

Please include your prayer requests when you write. We love you and we are praying for you.

Friday, December 25, 2009

Happy Birthday Jesus - I love You!

"For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on Him shall not perish, but shall have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son (Jesus) into the world to condemn the world but that the world through Him might be save". (John 3:16-17)







And I love you too!







How are you doing today? I pray that you are enjoying the Jesus we celebrate on today. The best gift of all is really Jesus...and whether you are around a table full of family and friends, or alone, remember, that Jesus is the gift and that He is also Emmanuel (God with us). God is With You. That should make your day a wonderful celebration. You see I learned a long time ago, that without Christ, there is no Christmas...gifts and feasts don't mean anything....as soon as this day is over, the brightness of the season will grow dim and people who are not rooted in the love of Christ will forget the brightness of this season. But if Jesus lives in your heart, you can celebrate. If you are mourning the loss of your loved one, or you do not have a job or you do not have tons of gifts and a table of food....you will still have cheer...because Jesus is the Light...the Light of the World that enlightens the heart's candle. You can smile, enjoy a good movie, remember the memories of loved ones gone on and worship Jesus.

Thursday, November 26, 2009

Happy Thanksgiving

I am so thankful for what God has done for me through the years...I love Christmas, because Jesus is Christmas.....but I don't like the shopping...and the need to decide who to buy for....Christmas would be better for me if we just had Christmas service, Christmas dinner and fellowship and NO GIFT EXCHANGE...except to give to the poor, elderly, orphans and widows and prisoners....ONLY!! Sorry, but everybody I know has enough if not more than enough or too much...

I love Thanksgiving, because it reminds of God's faithfulness throughout the year....I sang Great is Thy Faithfulness a few times this morning...the Holy Spirit just reminding me of that great hymn of the church and the greatness and faithfulness of God.

And then later on... a little melancholy set in and I could not stop it...I prayed through it...cried through it...and felt some anniversary mourning today about so many things....losses...my Dad not being here, my brother not being here..the family being separated..I'm so glad I drove to CT to be with my mother or she would have been in the house all alone this Thanksgiving....I did see my grandmother who is 97 years old and lost so much weight but still looking good and she ate all of her food and I'm thankful for that...

Grief is a little sneaky I guess...I could not help from mourning ...and this is called Holiday Grief...it is sometimes in the holidays that we miss the ones we love the most or we grieve something missing....I got through it by eating enough sweet potato pie for three people; crying, praying and just allowing myself to be...I also went to the movies with my mom and that was a great distraction. But God is with me and the what I love most about the Lord is that He understands and He knows me (you) and He will help us through the holidays knowing that this too will pass....

I did laugh today too...and that reminded me that the grief was not all consuming....and I am being careful not to watch certain programs or shows that are too harsh or

Sunday, November 22, 2009

A Time to Heal - God is Our Healer

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (New International Version)




Ecclesiastes 3

A Time for Everything

1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: 2 a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, 3 a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, 4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, 5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, 6 a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away, 7 a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, 8 a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

God's word is so rich....and timely. No matter what we have read or known before, it is when God by the Holy Spirit lifts His Word to your heart and understanding, then meaning comes to you in new ways.

As I read these verses again, I realized that I have gone through all of these seasons at various times in my life, but did not fully grasp that it was a "season" of God's purpose. In Christendom today, we hear so many songs talking about "it's your season"....and we are looking for material blessings and riches and comfort...but God's word does not always promise seasons (or showers) of blessings. Indeed, the Word of God does say those seasons come...but they also go....and with them comes other seasons of planting, and uprooting...and building...and tearing down...and dancing...and mourning...and killing and healing.....

This sermonette is to tell you to ask the Holy Spirit to help you to identify the season you are currently in so that you can find God's divine purpose in it. It may not be a season of abundance...but the season, whatever it is, is divinely appointed by God to show you a greater view of Himself...and that is the richness of Christ that we should desire. Even when we are in the season of mourning....a season of healing will come too....

Wait on it. You may be in your season of mourning...find God in it...Jesus was "acquainted with grief"...He is the best grief counselor I know...and then go through your season of healing....go through the process..go through the valley...with Jesus. He is our Healer.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

We Are More Than Conquerors Through Jesus Christ Our Lord

For everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith (1 John 5:4).


Everyone who has believed in the Lord Jesus Christ as the Son of God and has given their life to Christ as Lord and Savior WILL overcome this world......it is our heritage and the Lord's promise to us. With our faith, we can overcome anything that this world will try to put on us....and anything that we may go through in this world...We will overcome by our faith in Christ and a God who "is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him" (Hebrews 11:6).

This has encouraged my heart today. Right when I think what else must I have to deal with Lord, God's great faithfulness reminds me of His infinitive care of me in spite of myself, other people and circumstances. In my darkest nights, my faith by God's help has restored me to know that with Christ, there are always new beginnings. I have in the last month met some terrific people who are asking me to link up with them in ministry. I have had the opportunity in spite of my own personal battles, to bless, encourage and minister to others and watch God create opportunity after opportunity. These great men and women of God are somewhat unsuspecting at first glance, but they are busy doing Christ's work int he world, simply, one day at a time, one victory at a time and through seeming defeats.....

Whatever you are facing today....a friend told me today, don't wait for the breakthrough...push through and the breakthrough will come...

Be Blessed in Him who keeps on Saving Us!

Sis Birdsong

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Grieve Well

Today is October 31, 2009. Except it being the day that some folks celebrate Halloween, it is STILL the day that the Lord has made, and we should rejoice and be glad in it.

But if you have experienced a recent loss, even today may be a "blue day" for you. It's amazing how the happiness of others can depress us more when we are already sad or hurting. But may I encourage you friend that you do not need permission to be sad? A friend told me recently, "Verinda, you must feel your life". I did not understand the meaning of that statement until my friend explained that we can stuff our feelings or trade one feeling for another, instead of owning where we truly are in our journey. The way to overcome is to own what it is AND THEN claim by faith through the word of God what is SHALL be...

I will smile again...

I will laugh again...

I will love again..

I will trust again..

I will have faith again..

I will succeed again...

I will......live and not die, though this experience and the feelings that go with it appear to be killing the best parts of me right now.

We must grieve well in order to be healed from the loss. Hiding, stuffing, escaping and pretending won't work. We must say, I know that you may be well and doing good, but I'm not. I'm sad today. But I know I am fine and okay and that one day God is going to give me my hmmp back! We must embrace all of ourselves...we are indeed complex beings just like God made us to be. That's what I love about Jesus. He was no pretender. He didn't need anyone to tell him who people were because "he knew all men". Jesus also knows us. He knows where you are. He knows your hidden stuff and the leaky stuff too!

I am becoming more grateful for that. I am learning to extend some grace to myself. To be okay to feel but to not to stay there...but to see my whole life, not just the parts or person(s) I have lost along the way.

I may have lost a friend...but I still have a few great friends I can count on.

I may have lost the anticipation of a love interest...but that means that I am now free and open to explore other love task opportunities.

I may have lost my job..but I am now learning how to lean and depend on God to meet my needs in surprising and miraculeous ways.

I may have lost my stuff...but I am learning that "life does not consist of the possessions I had"..

I may have lost my faith in God in my pain and disappointment of what was lost....but I have learned that God did not lose me...and what feels like a loss is really God trying to "enlarge me" on the inside to seek and pursue Him more...

You and I must approach life in a way that is restorative even in our brokeness. The walk by faith message is about living our faith out during the happy times and the sad times. If you are angry, deal with it. If you are sad, take some time to discover inside of your heart with the Lord Jesus, what's going on on the inside.

Who hurt you? Find that out as well and ask the Lord to lead you to the place where the hurt began..and then ask the Lord to suture those soul wounds, that disappointment, that hurt...

I have even found laughter in my pain....laughter in my tears...which is always a sign to me that sad days and bad days don't last.....laughter is full of God's hope!


Grieve well.....my friends....

Saturday, October 3, 2009

Why Grief Recovery Is Important

As I have gotten older, I have come to realize that so many people do not deal with emotional pain appropriately. Like others, I learned how to hide behind my pain with masks of every sort, including becoming a workalcolic, "super minister", "super sister" and on and on.....disguising the real hurt I was dealing with in my life. Then there came a time, after experiencing so much loss consecutively, I decided to embark on a personal journey of recovery with the assistance of Christian Counselor. I discovered that grief can be a silent killer, ebbing away at the fabric of your emotional and psychological well-being. Compound grief is even more debilitating. Before you are healed from one traumatic event, you find yourself in multiple stages of grief (http://www.recover-from-grief.com/stages-of-grief.html). I am not a grief counselor. I am a grief recovery participant. Regardless of the stages of grief, you know for yourself that without dealing with the grief in an appropriate manner, you will sometimes "leak" pain on other persons. Or you may find yourself stuck in an emotional state and not realize that it is unresolved grief, loss that has been shuffled under the carpet and not addressed.

That's why grief recovery is important. I believe God through the Holy Spirit who is the Comforter, wants to heal you (us) through the journey of loss, whatever that loss may be. It is important to validate your grief so that God can heal the pain you may be experiencing. It is okay to cry, to laugh, to remember, to mourn. Jesus promised that "those who mourn will be comforted".

Whether you decide to use a counselor-patient approach or support group is up to you. God's Word is the ultimate "book" for persons going through grief recovery. My favorite books are the Psalms. This encouragement's emphasis is to remind you that you are okay, the grief is real and you must sometimes face the grief head-on in order to move through recovery. This does not remove the loss, but in time, God will bring some significance, learning, comfort, understanding, to your heart about it.

An interesting article appeared in Psychology Today that is worth reading - I agree with the tenet of the article that outside of regular "stages"...grief is very personal and individual. Read on: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-journey-ahead/200804/stages-grief-time-new-model



Stages of Grief by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

denial
anger
bargaining
depression
acceptance


People have also added other stages (and words)  like: shock, pain and guilt, the upward turn, reconstruction and working through (see recover from grief site).